You can have a better family.
Your family can become a team when you embrace the purpose of leaving not just an inheritance but a legacy to your children.
Build a Family Team with 4 people 1) The father, 2) mother, 3) child and 4) another leader outside the family who can influence your child speaking the same thing to him/her.
Example of a Family Team in our church:
“Michael and Deborah are spouses and Shu Yan is Mattan’s life group leader in collaboration to impact the next generation”
Start strengthening these colored connections in our Family Team.
Redline – Your marriage, Maroonline – Your father-child relationship, Pinkline – Your mother-child relationship,
Yellowline - Your child-leader/teacher relationship. This is the influence of a young leader to help lead and engage your growing child & Orangeline – Our parent-leader relationship. This partnership with the leader ensures both lead in the same direction and speaking the same thing.
REDLINE
Redline is your marriage. It is the core connection where everything else is built.
Tips to strengthen the redline:
1) Go for marriage enrichment courses & activities.
2) Do a Prepare/Enrich survey together to get valuable insights into the state of your marriage.
3) Be courageous to engage a marriage counsellor if you need one.
MAROONLINE
Maroonline is the paternal parenting or fathering
Tips to strengthen the maroonline:
1) Go for parenting courses. (I recommend Parents for Life and Parenting With Confidence).
2) Join DadsForLife.org and be engage with other fathers to walk this journey.
3) Start a Dad’s Club specially for your child where you date your child on a regular one to one basis.
4) If you are the mum, be watchful of your gate-keeping instinct and allow your child’s father to connect with him/her.
PINKLINE
Pinkline is the maternal parenting or mothering.
Tips to strengthen the pinkline:
1) Go for parenting courses. (I recommend Parents for Life and Parenting With Confidence).
2) Start your own Mum’s Club where you date your child on a regular basis.
3) Get support from fellow mothers. I suggest joining facebook group “Hope Mommies”.
YELLOWLINE
Yellowline is your child’s connection with his/her leader in church.
Tips to strengthen the yellowline:
1) Take them or encourage your child to go to church.
2) Develop an interest in what the kids/youth ministry in the church does everyweek with your child
3) Speak fondly of the church community which God has placed you or your child in. I suggest joining facebook group “HopeKids Ministries”
ORANGELINE
Yellowline is your relationship with your child’s leader in church. It is important to note that you send your child to church not to outsource spiritual leadership of your own child to the church. Instead you are engaging a leader as the helper to support you in your role as the main spiritual carer.
Tips to strengthen orangeline.
